I actually never talked about this ( besides on my Summer Camps) but Inner Game  – your thoughts and state of mind is crucial when you are about to do an approach. How you feel! Because that “how you feel” will be projected to the girl as soon as you approach her, and what’s even more important will set your state for whole interaction / conversation. Basically, you  come to her  with wrong energy / state you are fucked! So you have to learn how to control it.

Here is a very Powerful Sequence  that you can use to control your state before you go there.

Decide what opener you going to use

You should always have 2-3 different openers in your phone. Look through them and choose  one that fits the situation the best. One that you are most comfortable using in that situation

Clear your mind – Defocus

Stop thinking, try to totally clear out all your thoughts, whatever its going through your mind/ body – DEFOCUS


Focus on breathing, deep slow breaths will calm you down

Immerse yourself  into environment

Feel the vibe of environment, tune in to the music, become a part of environment

Focus on her flaws

I wrote about it already, if she is really beautiful/hot (and you shouldn’t even think about approaching anything else) look for imperfections, things she is trying to hide, focus on her flaws, and not on her beauty.

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